Never depend on others to supply your joy. If you’re waiting for your partner to bring you flowers, you’ll end up disappointed every time they come home empty-handed. But, what’s stopping you from buying yourself those flowers you love so much? You are worthy of loving yourself. You deserve to treat yourself to that beautiful bouquet of fresh flowers or whatever else brings you joy.
I have never understood why some women get upset when their partners don’t bring them flowers. To me, that doesn’t mean they don’t love you. I see it as either being not that important to them or not how they express their love for you. It’s likely they have other ways of showing their love. Whether you’re a flower-lover or not, don’t start relying on someone else to supply your happiness.
While special gifts and surprises are nice, don’t expect them because you may be let down. If you want jewelry, then save your money and buy yourself jewelry. You don’t have to wait for another person to give you the things you want in life. Don’t get me wrong - Staying within your budget and not going overboard are great tips to keep in mind. However, don’t wait on someone to surprise you with that necklace you’ve always wanted. You may be surprised at how good it feels to give yourself something that you have been wanting.
You are in charge of your own happiness. Be good to yourself because, not in spite of, what your partner didn’t do. ALWAYS be good to yourself. There isn’t anyone you should love more than you.
Doing things for yourself does not mean that others don’t love you or that you don’t love and need others. We all do. But, do not wait for people to make you happy. Take charge of your joy. You are responsible for bringing yourself happiness.
What I have learned: You are in charge of your own happiness. Do things that bring you joy.
We are now six months into 2022…Where are you with your New Year’s resolutions or goals? Take a minute to review and reflect on how you are doing. Did you stay on track? Did you stay on the right course? A couple of things to think about:
1. If you fell off the wagon and have lost sight of your goal, this is the perfect time to get back at it. Perhaps your goal was centered on weight loss. Because the weather is warming up, it’s the perfect time to get up and move your body. It is also a great time to focus on good eating habits. If your goal was career-oriented, take a minute to reflect. Ask yourself, “Is it time to update my resume?” Or maybe you should create an account on LinkedIn to begin networking. This time of year, people are moving and shaking while companies are settling down, so it might be a good time to review your goals.
If your goal was to look after your own mental health, it is time you review that goal too. Have you given up on setting boundaries? Have you stopped taking care of yourself? It's not too late to jump back on the wagon, start taking care of yourself, and setting firm boundaries. A great way to get started is by using Kickstarting Wellness. This journal is filled with prompts to guide your personal wellness journey by providing space for journaling and creating healthy habits.
2. The second tip I would suggest is a mid-course correction. A mid-course correction is when you review the progress of your goal and make changes that will help you reach that goal. Perhaps you're on the right track, but things just aren't going the way you would like. If your goal is weight loss and the weight isn't coming off the way you want, maybe it's time to change it up by adding some weight to your workouts or modifying your diet. I've had to do that myself with weight loss goals by adding more carrots and less chips. Your mid-course correction may not be as much fun, but I think the results will be better. Less wine and more water probably would be helpful too…
If you are looking at your career and needing to make a mid-course correction on that goal, think about marketing yourself a little differently. Perhaps you modify your resume by reviewing your skills to see where you could be more marketable. Perhaps reaching out and networking with different people or looking into a completely different field might widen your opportunities.
If you have been working on your mental health and wellness, take a minute to think about what needs to be changed or modified. How are the boundaries you set up for yourself working? If they're working well, then keep them where they are. If they are not, then make some changes to the boundaries. Take a look and see if there are other areas that could help enhance the already great strategies you have been using. For example, you might already be working out and eating well, but you've been staying up too late working. It might be a good idea to turn your cellphone off by 9 pm or stop working late in the evenings to promote better sleep and further improve your mental health and well-being. Maybe you need to incorporate more meditation and deep breathing in your day.
Whatever your journey, take a moment to check your progress on your goals. Reflection is a large part of growth, but using what we have learned from our reflection and acting upon that is a huge win too.
What I have learned: Take a moment to reflect on your own progress. You may need to restart a goal or make mid-course corrections. Either way, you're headed in the right direction.
Tania Farran is an educator, mom, business owner, and an author. Her blogs tell about balancing all of these things in life! Laugh or cry with her and maybe learn a thing or two.