In life, there are “doers” and “veggers.” I am definitely a doer. I find it very difficult to just sit and veg out. While we stayed in the hospital with our daughter, I had the hardest time doing nothing. Yes, we played games and binge-watched shows, but I didn’t do anything I considered productive for two days. I was beginning to feel helpless and worry began to encompass my thoughts. My daughter and I both had our moments of, “I want to go home,” because home feels good, smells good, and brings us comfort. Doing nothing raises my anxiety and makes me feel out of sorts. I feel better when I can “do.” Being productive by keeping my mind and body moving is actually more relaxing for me than sitting on the couch. After I had been at the hospital for 48 hours, I really needed my husband to take his turn at the hospital. I needed to do something and take a break. I think my daughter was also ready to have a new person in her hospital room! She was so brave and handled vegging out much better than I.
While driving home, my thoughts centered around what I could do to help her in her transition home. I drove straight to the grocery store. I picked up some things we would need as she was recovering from her week-long stay. Once home, I took a power nap. Then, I had my coffee and read for about 30 minutes. Now that I was up and moving, I was beginning to feel much better. Then, the doer in me really kicked in! I made my list and the work began. I cleaned her house, washed her sheets, and made things pretty in her home. I cut fresh flowers and put them in a vase for her. I was feeling better and better as I was moving more and more. My heart was full to be able to do this for my daughter.
Before bed, I Facetimed my daughter and told her what I accomplished. She grinned from ear to ear. She was really appreciative. We were all ready for her to come home.
What I have learned: Being a doer is who I am. I feel best when moving and helping others.