Not so long ago, I was walking with a friend. We were just talking about life, and I shared how I had gained so much weight in the last year after taking a remote work position. I was really frustrated with myself. She listened quietly to how I was feeling, the changes I was making towards better health, and the tactics I had tried to rid myself of the extra body weight. After I rambled for probably half a mile, she responded with, “I believe in you.” She didn’t help me make excuses about how hard it is to lose weight or how we are aging. She didn’t try to offer advice on the latest trendy diet. Her only response was, “I believe in you.” After she said it, we just continued walking quietly for a little bit. I have thought about that conversation for a while. Her words were simple but powerful. “I believe in you.” There was no dramatic emphasis. It was just a beautifully simple message, uplifting and powerful. In that moment, I truly did believe that she believed in me.
Since then I began thinking about the messages we give to our children. What types of messages do we send our children? Do we send them mostly negative messages, or do we send messages that let them know we believe in them? It’s important that we instill values and morals in our children. But unless we tell them that we believe in them, that they can accomplish anything, that they can be the person they are striving to become, they’re not going to believe in themselves. Our words are powerful. It takes many more words to build someone up than it takes to tear them down. Making sure we are telling the people we care about that we believe in them is essential to a healthy relationship. You can make good choices. You can get that dream job. You can finish school. A belief sparks a vision, and that’s when incredible things happen.
What I have learned: “I believe in you” is a powerful statement.
Tania Farran is an educator, mom, business owner, and an author. Her blogs tell about balancing all of these things in life! Laugh or cry with her and maybe learn a thing or two.