Filling My Friendship Cup
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
This quote, torn from the Sunday newspaper, hung in my daughters’ bathroom for several years. It served as a reminder for them to select who they were friends with very carefully. I wanted them to think about how other people influenced their lives. Take a moment to think about the five people with which you spend the most time. Do they lift you up or bring you down? Are you learning from them? Do they learn from you? Are their words kind and caring or demeaning and torturous? Do they make you want to be the best you can be? Do they believe in you?
As you reflect, you may realize you need to make some changes to your friend roster. It’s okay to make these changes. After all, you are important and taking care of your own growth and well-being is critical to leading a healthy and happy life. You may also want to reflect on how you contribute to the relationship with these five people. How can you improve in your circle? Are there areas you can work on to become a better friend? Are you uplifting and encouraging others? Life is evolving and changing each day, and so are you. You need to find people that are filling your friendship cup, not draining it.
I choose to surround myself with people who are encouraging, supportive, knowledgeable, kind, funny, compassionate, and giving. These amazing qualities within my friends contribute to my own growth and, hopefully, I contribute to their growth too. I don’t care what your age is! If we connect, we are friends. If you are mean, conniving, cruel, hateful, lazy, or negative, I don’t need you in my circle of friends. I don’t mind helping and supporting others when they are in need, but a person with a consistently negative personality who is unwilling to grow and improve is not my cup of tea. Negativity is draining, and you cannot fill a cup that is constantly draining. Fill your cup with goodness. Cherish those few people who fill your cup. Surround yourself with those amazing humans.
What I have learned: To fill my cup, I need my circle to be made up of people who are encouraging, supportive, funny, loving, and real.
Tania Farran is an educator, mom, business owner, and an author. Her blogs tell about balancing all of these things in life! Laugh or cry with her and maybe learn a thing or two.