Memories are created when you least expect it. The other day I was helping my adult daughter organize her home office and guest room. She is newly married and has been very busy with her career. Needless to say, those two rooms began to take on a form of their own as the newlyweds settled into married life while still juggling their own independent commitments. They have not had the time to arrange and decorate the rooms to their liking. So, my daughter asked me to help, and I, of course, was happy to do it. Secretly, I just love spending time with her! We spent one day shopping for storage containers, bedding, and decorative items for the guest room. Then, the next day we tore into the project with full momentum! As we uncovered stashed wedding items, we took time to reminisce on that wonderful day, even opening the garment bag that held her wedding dress. There was a lot of ooooing and ahhhhing at the beauty of the dress and much giggling about the search and the awkward scenarios of the dress fittings.
Then, we came across pictures from her senior year of high school softball. There was the medal from when her team won their District Championship. This brought feelings of pride and accomplishment for her. We even found a few softball pictures from when she was 5 years old, which melted my heart. She reminisced on the many great softball memories she had made with her teammates. We packed all these items in a special “Memory Box.”
Finally, we came upon the unused and unwanted pile. We laughed at the stack of unused gift cards she had forgotten about. We chuckled at the unworn dresses that still had the tags on them. As I rolled my eyes, I resolved never to buy her anything again! She readily agreed, even though she knew I wasn’t serious. I then took the opportunity to quote my mom. In times like these, she always says, “We are so blessed.” And she is right. We live in abundance, and we are truly blessed.
On that simple yet beautiful day, we created memories. I will cherish the sounds of my daughter’s laughter when she found a stray sock in a strange spot, laughing together as I asked, “How did that get there?”. I’ll remember the resounding “Ugh!” as she found one more tumbleweed of dog hair after a thorough vacuuming of the room!
As we completed the organization of the guest room and office, we felt more and more pride in the work we had done. The hard work was unfolding before our eyes in the form of two beautifully put-together rooms. The time we spent together cost us nothing, nor did the memories we created. As an added bonus, we had such fun accomplishing a do-it-yourself home project. I love spending time with my kids in whatever way I can, even if it’s cleaning out closets.
When my daughter asked me to help out with this project, we didn’t know we would be creating memories along the way. Perhaps years down the road we will do it again and reminisce about this time together. Sometimes you are making memories when you’re not even trying!
What I have learned: Memories can be created when you least expect it.