While preparing for the holidays, it’s easy to get caught up in everyone’s social media posts filled with perfectly decorated trees and impeccably wrapped presents. We often feel pressure to recreate the Norman Rockwell holiday home, but there is never enough time to get everything done. I always wish that December would last about six weeks so I would be able to fit in as many holiday experiences as possible. Unfortunately, we only get three to four weeks to make special holiday memories with our family and friends. While traditions are great, I also think that it is okay to skip a tradition every once in a while. Some years may just be too busy to expect traditions to be followed perfectly. Don’t be afraid to decline invites or modify traditions when life gets too busy.
I always have my Christmas trees up before Thanksgiving. I put them up early not to push Turkey Day aside but because I find them so beautiful. However, this year that tradition did not happen. In fact, I only put up one of our trees. I ended up not using the homemade ornament tree that ALWAYS goes in the family room...gasp!
I just did not have time for it. We had other great things happening in our lives that took up the time I would have normally used to decorate: new carpet, new furniture, and a new fireplace all installed in November. I made sure I carved out time to host a great Thanksgiving evening full of food, laughter, and games for my family. I was also able to spend some quality time with my husband and take my girls out of town - twice! I loved, laughed, and had a wonderful time with my family. We were able to enjoy the beginning of the holiday season together. But, I just couldn’t find the time to put that one tree up. I’ve realized that sometimes our normal routines and traditions change. And, that’s okay.
I encourage you to give yourself permission to let go of that one tradition this year. It doesn’t mean it can’t or won’t make an appearance in the years to come. It doesn’t mean you don’t love those homemade ornaments! It means that LIFE got in the way. Gift yourself a little bit of grace this holiday season.
What I have learned: It’s okay to let go of a tradition if your life won’t allow it. There is always next year.
Tania Farran is an educator, mom, business owner, and an author. Her blogs tell about balancing all of these things in life! Laugh or cry with her and maybe learn a thing or two.