Take it or leave it
While having a conversation on the phone with a dear friend, we began discussing what was really important to us. We had both recently spent time with family and were happy about it. But while talking, the topic of cleaning our houses prior to events came up. I laughed and said, “Well, I just mopped my floors for the first time since probably Christmas.” We both laughed and said, “Who cares? If people don’t like it, don’t come over.”
But honestly, my house is cleanish. Yes, I said cleanish. Allow me to define: Cleanish, as in picked up, dishes done, laundry completed, trash emptied, counters wiped, and floors swept. Mopping, baseboards, windows, dusting? Not so much. But who cares? Frankly, I have books and blogs to write, yoga to do, people to connect with, and a family to love. Does anyone feel more loved in my house when it’s squeaky clean? I hope not because it isn’t that.
On most occasions, a tumbleweed of dog hair might float across your feet as you sit and sip your coffee. But I promise, I will laugh with you, cry with you, pray with you, and love you while you are at my home. I will genuinely ask how you are doing. I will appreciate the time you spend with me. I will seek ways to help you if you need them, or I may just listen if that is what you need. There is no doubt that I will be loud and give a hearty laugh. So if you are coming to inspect my floors, don’t waste your time. But if you want to spend quality time with me, my door is always open.
What I have learned: How you make people feel when you spend time with them matters much more than what your space looks like when they visit.
Tania Farran is an educator, mom, business owner, and an author. Her blogs tell about balancing all of these things in life! Laugh or cry with her and maybe learn a thing or two.